Hair on Fleek! (Good Hair Day)

Hey Naturals!

The whole process of learning what actually works for your coils and kinks and what will not work on any given day (for me it’s a wash & no no) can get quite expensive and frustrating. Simple oils, thicker oils for winter, and a shea butter mix have been my best friend. Once my hair is cleansed and has had the moisture sealed in watch out, giiirl you can’t tell me nothing!  When the good hair days come around and stay around, you have found your routine.

fb kkinks blogFor this specific look I set my hair over night in flat twist all over my head. In the front I chose about 3/4 of the front to be twisted one way and the rest in the opposite direction. The crown of my head was also in chunky flat twists the same direction as the front 3/4 of my hair.

The trick is to only tease the front and crown of the head leaving the rest of the flat twist curled tighter with minimum fluff. Rollers can be used on your flat twist going around the head (not the front or crown)if your hair is longer. This will make those sections of hair appear shorter giving your style shape. I currently do not have a “style” for my natural tresses. I mostly do whatever comes to mind. Sometimes it’s a mess and other days… its a masterpiece!! Today is hair is on FLEEK ❤

Shoe Review: GoJane.com

Hey Naturals!!

One thing that I can say that will not go away anytime soon is my love for shoes! Never mind that the right pair will lift that booty, make those legs appear longer and give you a strut to kill for. It will have your confidence on “You need to calm down”, lol. My confidence of being a woman isn’t solely based on cosmetics and image, but hunty if a pair of 3 – 4.5 inch pumps don’t give me life! I have to admit that most of my shoes right now are on a break due to the winter season, but don’t worry… they’ll be out again soon enough. My latest purchase was from GoJane.com. I have made purchases from them before. Their shoes fit pretty true to size and fit as comfortable as expected. I have not had to add any of those pressure relief sole inserts in any of the shoes.

GoJane Shoe Review

Clearly 4u Ankle Strap Heels ($15) & Unknown (sold out-$18).

Since my purchase I have only wore the strapless pair. Don’t worry I do have an outfit on standby for the metallic green pair as well.

My reasoning for shopping at GoJane.com is the bargains! You can really get a nice pair of shoes for the low. Stylish, affordable and in my closet is how I like them. I also have read other reviews from this online store and most reviews received are great! The only real factor I seen with dissatisfaction is the fit. Some say true to size while others say it runs smaller or larger. I honestly feel this may due to what the brand of the shoe is.

Overall if you are on the hunt for inexpensive shoes with style or even something more simple like a leatherette point toe pump in different flavors… GoJane is a fix! Expensive shoes don’t show class… your walk and the cross of the leg does! While trying not curse like a sailor, lol.

My 2 Year Anniversary!

Hey Naturals!! Let me start by saying if your going through your hair journey and feel like you want to scream, cut it all off and just wear wigs or get that creamy crack… you are not alone. Sheesh! This does take plenty of patience and commitment. Since I’ve been rocking my natural hair I’ve been an on and off again product junkie trying to find out what works for my hair. I have finally perfected a routine that actually works for me. When coming up with a hair routine to retain the length of your hair, strength in your strands and moisture for your ends it is best to keep it simple! When I first started (and now) I kept hearing keep it simple, keep it simple.. blah blah blah. It is definitely the truth. At the end of the first year is when I started to get the hang of it, however still mostly wearing protective styles like Senegalese/Kinky twist.

2yr anniversary

2 year length check.

Now at the end of my second year and starting my third year in this health hair journey I am totally loving my hair. Less frustrations, more understanding equals plenty more smiles and better hair days! There were a few months were I was a completely lazy natural. No moisturizing, no satin bonnet at night, days before the next moisturizing of any tips, using watery products without sealing ends with oil…. ooooh my goodness I was the worst. Glad those days are over. I really had to recommit myself to this natural hair journey. Also, I had to find the time to do so. Having such thick hair does require more attention and time, especially as it grows longer. I’ve learned to care for my hair by not using a (wide tooth) comb as much, moisturizing every night, wearing my satin bonnet, surprisingly using less products for my hair and keeping my hands out of it. Doing my hair less and leaving them in twists have been my staple routine for the past few months and my hair is thanking me for it. I have trimmed my hair twice in the last 3 months to get rid of those terrible ends I gained while not caring for my hair. I totally don’t mind losing an inch knowing the year ahead its going to be great. My hair goal is to retain another 4-5 inches over the next year. Wish me luck loves!!

Polished In Pink

polished in pink       I really like my job, sales is what I do. However, fashion is my mind, its who I am. At work my coworkers like to tease me with names like “diva”. Sometimes I don’t mind it and sometimes I do. Getting dressed is easy when you have key pieces in your wardrobe. I love to dress with color and pink was the focus of the day.

Choosing a classic pencil skirt in a a funky color automatically personalizes your attire. I am a fan of being an individual as nature intended. Building my outfit around this piece was quite simple as well. I chose to wear a light top (white) to keep the look of the day fresh and flirty. To opt for a darker top wouldn’t have gave this look the same effect.

This tops fabric also was another reason for it being the choice. I love that the sheer gave a really sexy feel without doing too much, while the cut of the sleeves gave the outfit a really cool structure. The lady like collar meshed really well with the pink and the last thing to do was to find complimenting accessories!

Earrings and Necklace: Goodwill in NYC @ $3.99 ea Blouse and Skirt: Papaya in SYR both under $18.00 ea

Untold Beauty : A response to “DARK GIRLS”

natural hair rules_thumb[3]        This past Sunday the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) aired a documentary, by Bill Duke, titled “Dark Girls”. Being a woman of deep toned skin I was both concerned and optimistic about this documentary. Concerned with questions about if our story will be told correctly from the eyes of a male and how will his own personal views on the black woman and her beauty affect the editing of this documentary. Optimistic because I believed it would bring light to how women are treated because of their skin and that racial issues still exist, even within our community. With all this being said… I don’t think I was represented at all in this film.

I hoped that it would show proud BLACK women – of all cultures and backgrounds standing firm in SELF LOVE… it did not. After watching this twice the night it aired I found myself really disappointed. I do not wish to take anything from this film. I can fully appreciate the exploring of how the misperceptions of what beauty entails affects people who do not fit that standard. I definitely appreciate this discussion being brought out on a global scale from the living rooms and dining tables of every nation to the forefront. For that I am grateful. It is no secret that slavery on this continent has been the major factor that has caused this defined line of color discrimination.

Original Goddess    The oppression of Africans in America with unnatural false set of beliefs enforced by Westerners and its media has thrown the largest jab at the BLACK community across the globe. Especially to those who have more melanin. In this short documentary there was a lot of preference talk from men. (For me) This was not helpful to hear their responses when it came to skin color. It made no sense. Of course all black men don’t like the deepest toned women the same as all white men don’t like the palest of skin. Interracial dating is not going anywhere and more people are marrying outside of their cultures. This information was pointless and was just another way to send global negativity of the “dark girl”.

The major problem that I had with this film is that our beauty was confirmed by everyone else except the black women themselves! Which I found retarded and unrealistic. Most of these woman appeared to still have baggage of childhood memories. They displayed them on their sleeves as if those thoughts still effects their current lives. And even when some said that it no longer mattered they were not proud black women, but merely content with who they were. Bill Duke did not show us any strong black women in this short documentary, which saddens me because he himself is a dark man. I feel that his views, shaped by the western world, has had a total effect on his editing.

There was minimal positivity toward the black woman. The highest point was a snippet of an Ethiopian woman who claimed that dark skin in some parts of East African was still a badge of honor, but soon was over and followed up by sad faced crying women. Again I can appreciate the discussion being brought out to the table, but (in my eyes) it was a fail. A pity party. Black Woman

My argument for this documentary is a simple one. What angle of the “Dark Girls”, which should have been titled dark WOMEN, were you trying to show? Is there no deep toned women who feel that their dark skin has no effect on their relationships – personal or business? Is there no dark skin women who know that their skin is actually a badge of honor? Where are the women who have been taught from birth that they are beautiful? Has no one ever taught a dark skin woman to have self love??

I am completely unsure of the underlying effect this documentary wanted to have on its viewers, but I am sure that to empower our young dark skin women was no one of them. To try and cover all the dimensions of this type of conversation I feel that this should have been a series told by the black woman herself. This documentary is just that… just another.

Disregarded Truth.

DEAR GOD, 99 problems

At some point I really wish my community would stop being SHEEP. Molly is crack’s cousin on steroids. They need to be worried about something. Yolo is killing them. Turnt up wasn’t made for everyday and Rachet is not suppose to be a lifestyle. I love them to death. Please wake them up! The music they listen to is who they are becoming. I can’t deal…

Sincerely,
Your Ambitious, Shoe fanatic, Poet and daughter named Dutchess.

Born in the Morning.

As the sun rises…

I feel kissed by potential.

The overstanding of yesterday’s painlioness

and the win of today’s gain!

 

As the sun rises…

I know tomorrow brings better days.

I shall not cry or scream

but go forward with force!

 

As the sun rises…

I breathe then water hits my face.

Prayers go to MY God as I

strap up Madden’s to prepare for battle.

 

As the sun rises…

I feel my ancestors power.

Grasping their warrior spirits

I stretch and know that I AM AKINYI!

Born in the Morning…

As the sun rises.

Creeping.

Dear Future Husband,

I seen you last night when you crept out of bed. You were on your tip toes to make sure that you didn’t wake me… as you ran to use the phone. I swear I would never doubt your love. However, you know I have a inquiring mind. I waited for a second, then I followed. I heard you talking thru the garage door about how you managed to keep it a secret for so long. Sorry I opened the door and ruined the surprise for the morning. But either way, I EFFIN LOVE IT!! I always wanted a black on black two seater. I swear I never doubted your love.

Sincerely,

Your ambitious,Yahweh loving, shoe fanatic wife named Dutchess.

Late Night Satisfaction

The taste of chocolate

On the tongue

Dances like birds taking a bath

In the morning.

I love it.Strawberries_Dripping_Melting_Chocolate

Chocolate is…

The kiss I get

From my King in the evening

After he recognizes my dedication.

I breathe it.

Ask me what I want

And I’ll say chocolate.

Because I need it.

The energy I get is…

Better than a Red Bull.

I bleed this.

Oh sweet brown flavor…

Nothing compares to you.

When it’s stiff I’ll melt it

Down – with warm kisses.

Toss it back and forth

Between my lips then…

swallow – Oops!

My nipples perked

As I…

Taste – Sweet Satisfaction!

Hair Touching… Is it weird?

hair humor      Since I’ve been rocking my natural curlz and kinks I’ve noticed that people are actually curious and opinionated about my hair. Much more than when I was perming. I receive feel good compliments such as, “Wow! You really look good with natural hair. I like this look better on you.” Then there is the back hand compliments, “Well damn. Your natural hair is maaad nappy. When you perming it (lml). Sike nah, it looks good on you.” My face afterward =  -___- this chick just tried to blow my high (smh). And then there is THE REACH.

Out of all the responses one can get, this one leaves me the most puzzled on how to react to someone. I mean I totally understand their curiosity. There has been days when I am in the mirror amazed at how my hair spits in the face of gravity everyday. I pull on strands to release it slowly to see the curl pattern. I even gave myself a headache because it finally moves when I shake it. Truthfully, I don’t mind people wanting to touch my textured fro, but only when they ASK! It gives me a chance to chat it up about my 4c, the natural and store bought products I use and I can answer any questions or concerns they may have about doing it themselves. In my head I’m the star of the party, which is right up the alley of a Leo woman.

We, meaning family – friends and complete strangers, can chat as long as I have the time. Even joke about perms and hot combs. However, what I can’t stand is when we haven’t been properly introduced – or even if we have – and that individual just starts tugging on my hair asking questions. It drives me crazy… bout to slap her/him and #YeenEVENknoIT (LML)!! Oh hell no. They don’t even know how long it took me to play around with this 4c to get this defined braid out and now they messing it up. This is the part when I tilt the head, do the hand wave and make the face (0_O). That’s right I’m confused. Confused on how the hell am I now the rude one for not allowing you to pull on my hair. Next, it is the awkward silence.

I don’t know ladies. Am I handling the hair tuggers the right way?? It isn’t breaking up any friendships, but I know they probably feel some kind of way. Is it really my problem tho? Complete strangers I am not to concerned about, because they are rude for doing it. Has anyone else been thru similar experiences in their natural hair journey? If so, please share your story or comment below.

(P.S – My dentist is the worst of them all! An Asian woman.)

 

Sincerely….

A Yahweh loving shoe fanatic named Dutchess.