Hair on Fleek! (Good Hair Day)

Hey Naturals!

The whole process of learning what actually works for your coils and kinks and what will not work on any given day (for me it’s a wash & no no) can get quite expensive and frustrating. Simple oils, thicker oils for winter, and a shea butter mix have been my best friend. Once my hair is cleansed and has had the moisture sealed in watch out, giiirl you can’t tell me nothing!  When the good hair days come around and stay around, you have found your routine.

fb kkinks blogFor this specific look I set my hair over night in flat twist all over my head. In the front I chose about 3/4 of the front to be twisted one way and the rest in the opposite direction. The crown of my head was also in chunky flat twists the same direction as the front 3/4 of my hair.

The trick is to only tease the front and crown of the head leaving the rest of the flat twist curled tighter with minimum fluff. Rollers can be used on your flat twist going around the head (not the front or crown)if your hair is longer. This will make those sections of hair appear shorter giving your style shape. I currently do not have a “style” for my natural tresses. I mostly do whatever comes to mind. Sometimes it’s a mess and other days… its a masterpiece!! Today is hair is on FLEEK ❤

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Shoe Review: GoJane.com

Hey Naturals!!

One thing that I can say that will not go away anytime soon is my love for shoes! Never mind that the right pair will lift that booty, make those legs appear longer and give you a strut to kill for. It will have your confidence on “You need to calm down”, lol. My confidence of being a woman isn’t solely based on cosmetics and image, but hunty if a pair of 3 – 4.5 inch pumps don’t give me life! I have to admit that most of my shoes right now are on a break due to the winter season, but don’t worry… they’ll be out again soon enough. My latest purchase was from GoJane.com. I have made purchases from them before. Their shoes fit pretty true to size and fit as comfortable as expected. I have not had to add any of those pressure relief sole inserts in any of the shoes.

GoJane Shoe Review

Clearly 4u Ankle Strap Heels ($15) & Unknown (sold out-$18).

Since my purchase I have only wore the strapless pair. Don’t worry I do have an outfit on standby for the metallic green pair as well.

My reasoning for shopping at GoJane.com is the bargains! You can really get a nice pair of shoes for the low. Stylish, affordable and in my closet is how I like them. I also have read other reviews from this online store and most reviews received are great! The only real factor I seen with dissatisfaction is the fit. Some say true to size while others say it runs smaller or larger. I honestly feel this may due to what the brand of the shoe is.

Overall if you are on the hunt for inexpensive shoes with style or even something more simple like a leatherette point toe pump in different flavors… GoJane is a fix! Expensive shoes don’t show class… your walk and the cross of the leg does! While trying not curse like a sailor, lol.

My 2 Year Anniversary!

Hey Naturals!! Let me start by saying if your going through your hair journey and feel like you want to scream, cut it all off and just wear wigs or get that creamy crack… you are not alone. Sheesh! This does take plenty of patience and commitment. Since I’ve been rocking my natural hair I’ve been an on and off again product junkie trying to find out what works for my hair. I have finally perfected a routine that actually works for me. When coming up with a hair routine to retain the length of your hair, strength in your strands and moisture for your ends it is best to keep it simple! When I first started (and now) I kept hearing keep it simple, keep it simple.. blah blah blah. It is definitely the truth. At the end of the first year is when I started to get the hang of it, however still mostly wearing protective styles like Senegalese/Kinky twist.

2yr anniversary

2 year length check.

Now at the end of my second year and starting my third year in this health hair journey I am totally loving my hair. Less frustrations, more understanding equals plenty more smiles and better hair days! There were a few months were I was a completely lazy natural. No moisturizing, no satin bonnet at night, days before the next moisturizing of any tips, using watery products without sealing ends with oil…. ooooh my goodness I was the worst. Glad those days are over. I really had to recommit myself to this natural hair journey. Also, I had to find the time to do so. Having such thick hair does require more attention and time, especially as it grows longer. I’ve learned to care for my hair by not using a (wide tooth) comb as much, moisturizing every night, wearing my satin bonnet, surprisingly using less products for my hair and keeping my hands out of it. Doing my hair less and leaving them in twists have been my staple routine for the past few months and my hair is thanking me for it. I have trimmed my hair twice in the last 3 months to get rid of those terrible ends I gained while not caring for my hair. I totally don’t mind losing an inch knowing the year ahead its going to be great. My hair goal is to retain another 4-5 inches over the next year. Wish me luck loves!!

A 4c (Hair) Staple: The Bonnet Dryer

Hey Naturals!!

I have a new Winter Moisture Routine that I would like to share. I have learned a lot about my hair in the last two years of my healthy hair journey. We all know the winter is brutal on natural hair, if not taken care of properly, so this year I HAD to switch it up. My (4c) hair required more heat applied when I did my deep condition routine, which my dryer can not do alone. I needed something compact with ease of use to get the job done. The Bonnet Dryer was the perfect solution. Over the season I have also found an oil mix that works for me. I encourage naturals to use thicker oils like avocado oil, castor oil and my favorite olive oil. Coconut oil is just a must. It is terrible as a sealant, but has many benefits as you know.

Deep Condition Products

Both products can be found in the Hair Supply or Beauty section of most drug stores.

I have done this routine twice and so far so great! My hair has definitely been more manageable, softer and holds a slight natural sheen to it. My choice of products may not work for you, but then again.. it might.

First thing with my hair is sectioning before cleansing. Then for co-washing I generally use Patene or TRESemme’ products, same for the deep condition process. I love using my current conditioner. It does exactly what the bottle says and leaves my hair feeling moisturized with a pleasant softness. I apply it tips to root. This is the best time to detangle because the product gives my hair necessary slip reducing breakage. Once all sections are done, time to move on. This Cantu Tea Tree & Jojoba oil mix is my new favorite! The smell is great, it has a thick consistency and does wonders as my sealant. Again, I apply to all sections tips to root then I tend to twist my hair making sure all my hair is getting the product.

Both products bought from Amazon. Total was about $16

Both products bought from Amazon. Total was about $16

Before using my bonnet the infamous plastic bag comes out, lol. Both times I sat under for about 20-25 mins. It does get pretty hot and I do recommend purchasing ear cuffs. The usual flat two strand twists are go to protective style after a wash because the tension on the roots keep my hair from shrinking too tightly. I let it set overnight sleeping with my satin hair bonnet.

Deep Conditon & twistout results.

Deep Condition & twist-out results.

I’m soooo glad I purchased this dryer bonnet. That winter “crunchy” hair is defeated. I am in looove! My overall results were awesome. I am going to continue to do this twice a month for the rest of the season.

I would definitely recommend this bonnet to any natural who has really dry ends, breakage, course/thick hair or looking to use heat in their deep conditioning process. For me, this is my 4c (hair) Staple!

Staples by Dutchess

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Bath bombs! 100% natural online store coming soon!! #grapefruit #eucalyptus

Polished In Pink

polished in pink       I really like my job, sales is what I do. However, fashion is my mind, its who I am. At work my coworkers like to tease me with names like “diva”. Sometimes I don’t mind it and sometimes I do. Getting dressed is easy when you have key pieces in your wardrobe. I love to dress with color and pink was the focus of the day.

Choosing a classic pencil skirt in a a funky color automatically personalizes your attire. I am a fan of being an individual as nature intended. Building my outfit around this piece was quite simple as well. I chose to wear a light top (white) to keep the look of the day fresh and flirty. To opt for a darker top wouldn’t have gave this look the same effect.

This tops fabric also was another reason for it being the choice. I love that the sheer gave a really sexy feel without doing too much, while the cut of the sleeves gave the outfit a really cool structure. The lady like collar meshed really well with the pink and the last thing to do was to find complimenting accessories!

Earrings and Necklace: Goodwill in NYC @ $3.99 ea Blouse and Skirt: Papaya in SYR both under $18.00 ea

Creeping.

Dear Future Husband,

I seen you last night when you crept out of bed. You were on your tip toes to make sure that you didn’t wake me… as you ran to use the phone. I swear I would never doubt your love. However, you know I have a inquiring mind. I waited for a second, then I followed. I heard you talking thru the garage door about how you managed to keep it a secret for so long. Sorry I opened the door and ruined the surprise for the morning. But either way, I EFFIN LOVE IT!! I always wanted a black on black two seater. I swear I never doubted your love.

Sincerely,

Your ambitious,Yahweh loving, shoe fanatic wife named Dutchess.

Yellow “Shea” Butter vs Ivory Shea Butter

SheaButter2     When most people think about Shea butter, they visualize a yellow thick hard butter.  This information is incorrect. The yellow butter is actually called African Butter and is from a totally different tree than Shea. The reason for the confusion stems from the marketing technique used by the Westerners and Europeans when the originally began to sell this product. African Butter comes from the nuts of a tree that grows in a dense forest in wet and shaded areas. There is no organic yellow Shea Butter. If you are being sold “Shea” Butter that is yellow and hard, it is African Butter.

African Butter does have similar properties to Shea Butter in that it aides in anti-aging, healing of the skin and conditioning of the hair. Organic Shea Butter is an ivory color, not white. East Africans describe the color as ivory because the tone is similar to that of an elephants tusk. Shea Butter also is much creamier than African Butter. The tree that produces the nuts of Shea Butter grows in the open Savanna. With that being said the trees are in totally different environments hence why the butters would be completely different.

african vs shea     Because of the high demand for “Shea” butter and the wrong marketing techniques used in the beginning some are adding yellow coloring into actual Shea to conform to the buyers idea of what it should look like. However, in adding color and other chemicals to it the natural properties of the Shea has been changed. In return it is being stripped and is no longer as beneficial to the consumer because adding things interfere with the natural abilities of Shea.

So the bottom line is yellow Shea butter is AFRICAN BUTTER and ivory Shea butter is Organic. I am in no means judging people who cannot or do (did, after you read this) not know the difference between the two. In all honestly this is new information to me as well!! I am sharing this new information because I think it will be helpful to everyone. In light of this new information I myself now have to go and purchase some organic creamier ivory Shea Butter.

Sincerely…

A Yahweh loving shoe fanatic Dutchess.

Hair Touching… Is it weird?

hair humor      Since I’ve been rocking my natural curlz and kinks I’ve noticed that people are actually curious and opinionated about my hair. Much more than when I was perming. I receive feel good compliments such as, “Wow! You really look good with natural hair. I like this look better on you.” Then there is the back hand compliments, “Well damn. Your natural hair is maaad nappy. When you perming it (lml). Sike nah, it looks good on you.” My face afterward =  -___- this chick just tried to blow my high (smh). And then there is THE REACH.

Out of all the responses one can get, this one leaves me the most puzzled on how to react to someone. I mean I totally understand their curiosity. There has been days when I am in the mirror amazed at how my hair spits in the face of gravity everyday. I pull on strands to release it slowly to see the curl pattern. I even gave myself a headache because it finally moves when I shake it. Truthfully, I don’t mind people wanting to touch my textured fro, but only when they ASK! It gives me a chance to chat it up about my 4c, the natural and store bought products I use and I can answer any questions or concerns they may have about doing it themselves. In my head I’m the star of the party, which is right up the alley of a Leo woman.

We, meaning family – friends and complete strangers, can chat as long as I have the time. Even joke about perms and hot combs. However, what I can’t stand is when we haven’t been properly introduced – or even if we have – and that individual just starts tugging on my hair asking questions. It drives me crazy… bout to slap her/him and #YeenEVENknoIT (LML)!! Oh hell no. They don’t even know how long it took me to play around with this 4c to get this defined braid out and now they messing it up. This is the part when I tilt the head, do the hand wave and make the face (0_O). That’s right I’m confused. Confused on how the hell am I now the rude one for not allowing you to pull on my hair. Next, it is the awkward silence.

I don’t know ladies. Am I handling the hair tuggers the right way?? It isn’t breaking up any friendships, but I know they probably feel some kind of way. Is it really my problem tho? Complete strangers I am not to concerned about, because they are rude for doing it. Has anyone else been thru similar experiences in their natural hair journey? If so, please share your story or comment below.

(P.S – My dentist is the worst of them all! An Asian woman.)

 

Sincerely….

A Yahweh loving shoe fanatic named Dutchess.

Natural Hair Journey Pt.1

This video is my during my 5-6month transition until now. 5months post big chop